Renowned sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer is the author of 35 books, by such titles as Sex for Dummies and Dr. Ruth's Guide to Good Sex. She knows a lot about sex and relationships, but there's another subject matter in which Dr. Ruth is also an expert: skiing. A lifelong skier, Dr. Ruth recently told Esquire Magazine, "Skiers make the best lovers because they don't sit in front of a television like couch potatoes. They take a risk and they wiggle their behinds. They also meet new people on the ski lift." So, in honor of Valentine's Day today, I decided to call up Dr. Ruth, now 82 years old, and find out more about why skiers make great lovers and her tips for meeting people on the chairlift.
On Valentine's Day, take a day off and go skiing. Say to your significant other how fortunate you are that you both share the same sport.
I suggest that if lovers don't ski on the same level, they don't ski together. Either she complains it's too cold, or he complains that she's too slow. I suggest that people who love each other ski separately and meet for lunch and après ski. They will have lots to talk about when they meet.
I've skied my whole life. I just gave it up two years ago because I was skiing with Stein Eriksen (I used to ski with him, not on his level, but on my level) and the day after his 80th birthday, someone skied into him and he broke his collarbone and some ribs. I said this is a sign from above. So I gave up skiing.
I met my husband skiing in the Catskills. I was on a T bar with a tall Dutch friend and the T-bar was on my behind and it was on his ankles -- it just wasn't working. He introduced me to Fred, who was the president of the Jewish ski club. I said to my Dutch friend, I will go up the mountain with this short one. When I went up with the short one, I decided that he was going to be my husband.My late husband skied from first chair to last chair. He had to ski every single run in order to monetize the price of a lift ticket because it's so expensive.
Skiers wiggle their behinds and they always meet new people. That's why it's a good sport for meeting lovers.
When you stand in line for a ski lift and someone shouts, 'Single,' that doesn't mean they're single, that just means they're single for the trip up the mountain. They may have someone at the top waiting.
It's easy to meet new people when you're skiing. It is not like tennis where you sit there and you're a spectator. You are actively engaged. You never run out of topics of conversation. You can always talk about the snow.
If you're riding the chairlift with someone you're interested in and you've just met, don't ask personal questions. Talk about the skiing. Be as interesting as possible. Then you can figure out if that other person wants to have an après ski drink or not.
I loved skiing at Vail. China Bowl was my favorite because it's wide and safe and I was very happy there.
At the end of a ski day, you have that wonderful memory of the snowflakes and the wind in your air. Which is sexually arousing. The combination of the snow, the sun, a glass of red wine at the end of the day and the memory of saying, 'I skied well,' all of that is an aphrodisiac for skiers.
The other reason why skiing is such a wonderful sport is because you can't think about your worries. When you ski, you have to concentrate on what you're doing and you can't focus on your worries.